Allow Me to Give You Something Else to Judge Me On

There are very few things in this life that I am judgmental about. This doesn't mean that I have no opinion on most everything, but having an opinion and being judgmental are two different ways of being/acting and it is a very subtle difference so maybe I should clarify the two.

Judgmental: (adjective)
1. Of or concerning the use of judgment * - judgmental errors

2. Having or displaying an excessively critical point of view * - I don't like to sound judgmental, but it was a big mistake

Opinion: (noun)
1. a belief or judgment that rests on grounds insufficient to produce complete certainty.

2. a personal view, attitude, or appraisal.

3. the formal expression of a professional judgment * - to ask for a second Medical opinion.

Indeed they are subtle differences and one must be very careful when expressing an opinion to not cross that thin line into being/acting judgmental and thus causing those you are sharing with unnecessary grief, hurt feelings or just giving them a reason to change their perspective towards you. I have on occasion been judgmental and it has always ended badly to say the least. So I now take great care when expressing an opinion to clarify if I feel I'm not articulating my thoughts well enough and/or I've crossed that line by mistake. After all who am I to pass judgment on or towards anyone? We are all on the same journey even if we are at different points or have very different circumstances surrounding us. When I hurt someone else is being lifted up by one who has passed through a hurt of their own and is able to assist those behind. And when things are going well in my life I usually am presented with someone who needs my assistance to come through whatever is ailing them...even if only by words and prayers alone.

Recently I was on the receiving end of someone else's judgments. This isn't my first go round with this person in particular and I'm sure it won't be my last. I'm not sure what the intended goal was, but I do know that it accomplished two things: 1. It really pissed me off, especially since they just kept on with their criticism. 2. I really rather not be around this person ever again in my life; that is not very plausible and I don't like feeling this way towards anyone, at the same time I don't like being judged.

I have a strong personality myself and tend to be stubborn , even pigheaded at times, but the actions of this person were so far off my tolerant radar that now I'm in a position where I don't know how to act/respond/be around them. After I defended myself with strong notes of frustration, sarcasm and undertones that said "will you just shut up already" the person tried to play it off like they were joking. HA, that's a laugh...are you freakin' kidding me??? So you were kidding...well then let me just throw all of the conversation in a blender along with your dignity and see what it looks like on the other side of puree shall we. And in the meantime you can judge -I mean joke- about this post.